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Resolutions or Wishes?


It is upon us.  A New Year.  By the way, Happy New Year to my fellow Bloggers, Writers and Poets!  On that note, my mind is wondering (which it always is), where the idea or term “New Years Resolution” stems from.

What is a New Year without a few “resolutions” or what I call “wishes”.  To me, a “New Years Wish” is the same as creating a mental wish before blowing out your birthday candles. A wish is something you would like or something you would like to work toward.

candlesI do believe when you speak of your wants, needs and “wishes”, they do become more of a reality as you are speaking it out into the Universe.  For example, when you say, “I’m  happy”, your mind really believes it.  The same is for being “sad, dumb or depressed”.  The more you say whatever it is, your mind becomes that particular belief.  This has been discussed in deepness by many Spiritual Authors (i.e. Don Miguel Ruiz) and Scientist are beginning to catch on to this theory.  I mean, everything around us is living, even the air.  So, when you say something whether it is positive or negative, there is a high chance that it shall come to life.

resolutionWith that being said, I shall speak (in this case write, but speaking shall occur) my 2019 New Years Wishes NOT “resolutions”.  Not resolutions?  Why is that?  Well, thanks for asking. I believe the word “resolution(s)” is a silly word to use when attempting to grow positively into a new year.  Where did that word even come from?  Why do we even associate that word with something that is supposed to be positive?  Because I am who I am, I began pondering and questioning why we say “New Years Resolutions”, when in reality, the word “resolution” is a short and factual word.  It means to make a definite decision to complete something or do something with no wiggle worm.  To me, it is more of a negative word because when we say “resolution”, it means we are attempting to solve a “problem” or “dispute” something.

Hmmm….that’s NOT what my New Year’s Wishes are made of.  My wishes come from my heart and soul.  I make wishes not because there is a problem or dispute, but because I either want to grow spiritually, mentally or physically.

aAccording to the Cambridge Dictionary, it states a “New Years Resolution is promise that you make to yourself to start doing something good or stop doing something bad on the first day of the year”

There it is, it is to change something “bad”.  Yes, we are attempting to change “something”, but because I live a positive life, I don’t care much for the negative aspect or definition of using this word.

posI dug deeper because that’s what I do when I’m questioning something.  When you think about it, humanity began on a positive note.  Somewhere on our timeline, humanity moved from positive to “bad”, so this idea of a New Year’s “Resolution” came from some dark root.  But, my question is where?

According to History.com:

  • 4,000 years ago, Ancient Babylonians were the first to make “New Year’s Resolutions” in honor of the new year.   Their “resolutions” were actually “promises” (which is a positive idea) to their Gods to pay their debts and return any objects they had borrowed.
  • In ancient Rome, Julius Caesar messed with the months and established “January 1st” at the beginning of the “new year” around 46B.C.  This was a special day for the Romans as they saw it as looking back into the previous year and moving forward to the future.  They also made “promises” and offered sacrifices to their deity in order to have a good new year.  (another positive idea)
  • In 1790, early Christians made a tradition on January 1st for thinking about one’s past “mistakes” and how to be “better in the future”.  (Okay, here we go.  This is the beginning of the negative thoughts! They (Christians) started the idea of looking at one’s downfalls, their wrongs and mistakes)
  • “New Year’s resolutions today are a mostly secular practice. Instead of making promises to the gods, most people make resolutions only to themselves, and focus purely on self-improvement (which may explain why such resolutions seem so hard to follow through on). According to recent research, while as many as 45 percent of Americans say they usually make New Year’s resolutions, only 8 percent are successful in achieving their goals.”

And there we have it! The term/word/thought, “resolution” was born around 1790.  I am rejecting this negative connotation because I can!  I fathom negative thoughts because I know that negativity is like a virus and if I can help it, I will stray from that virus.


My New Years Wishes are simple.  I always try to stick to three, it is a number that is simply to reach.

  1.  To become more environmentally conscious in all areas of my life
  2. To become healthier.  To me that means eating food that will not only benefit me, but also my children, my husband and the environment.  It also means becoming more physically active, so I can keep my heart and blood flowing.
  3. To write more.  With my busy life, I lack on my writing hobby.  When I do write, I honestly feel more connected to who I really am.  It empowers me.  It is something that I cannot explain.

Cheers to a New and positive New Year!

-Cami*Star 2019




It is a new year. New beginnings.  A new start.


I come to the end of every year in the same situation and I feel like a lot of people do as well.

Here comes December and we are all grateful for the year to end.

We say bye to all of our regrets, hatred, and negative feelings.

We say bye to all of our baggage.

But why can’t we do it any other time?  It baffles me.

I am always trying to become a better person regardless if it is the end of the year or not.

But, it is our imaginative world that let’s us believe that beginning January 1st, we can be cleansed of all faults.

I cleansed.  I used my imaginative world and went with the flow.

I said good-bye to all who have hurt me and luckily that was taken care of before December.

I said good-bye to my ways of over eating and indulging in delicious chocolates.  Oh how I will miss you.

I said good-bye to  impatience and hello to that thing called PATIENCE.

2011 was not the best year for me, but it was not the worst.

In 2011 I welcomed:

  • My Maya Star who is now 7 months old
  • My sunshine who is still in my life with full vengeance
  • A pre-pre teen.  My 9-year-old who had overstepped her childish ways
  • A more powerful stance in life:  taking on two children as a single mother

And I have to say, those are the things that have made me a stronger and better person today.  Now, did it take me a new year to make these changes and outlooks on life?  No.  Like I said, I work on myself daily.  But in some weird, mystical way, January 1st always seems to officially take them away.

  • As I overcame a lot of stress and mishaps in 2011, I feel like I have climbed over that mountain, I reached the top.  Being at the top of the mountain was the hardest, but I took one breath at a time.  I took one step at a time.  One blink at a time.  And guess what?  I overcame it.  I laid in the hospital bed alone.  I did not have him there.  The father of my baby did not want to have anything to do with me or the baby.  I thought at the moment, how was I going to get through it.  I did it!  It is the proudest moment of my life.  I always tell people, I am not a “women” because there is no “man” in my life to help me, but I am a “womyn” because I can do it by myself.  And at the top of the mountain, it actually felt good.  I brought life into this world rather than diminish it.  I have become on overall stronger person because of my situation.

And I am now on the other side of the mountain.  2012 is strong, hopeful and most importantly lovely.

I smile when I wake up.

I laugh when I see my daughters laugh.

I blink and don’t have to blink again because today, right now, 2012 is a blessing.

Happy  New Year to me. Happy New Year to You.  And Happy New Year to New Beginnings.