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Resolutions or Wishes?

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It is upon us.  A New Year.  By the way, Happy New Year to my fellow Bloggers, Writers and Poets!  On that note, my mind is wondering (which it always is), where the idea or term “New Years Resolution” stems from.

What is a New Year without a few “resolutions” or what I call “wishes”.  To me, a “New Years Wish” is the same as creating a mental wish before blowing out your birthday candles. A wish is something you would like or something you would like to work toward.

candlesI do believe when you speak of your wants, needs and “wishes”, they do become more of a reality as you are speaking it out into the Universe.  For example, when you say, “I’m  happy”, your mind really believes it.  The same is for being “sad, dumb or depressed”.  The more you say whatever it is, your mind becomes that particular belief.  This has been discussed in deepness by many Spiritual Authors (i.e. Don Miguel Ruiz) and Scientist are beginning to catch on to this theory.  I mean, everything around us is living, even the air.  So, when you say something whether it is positive or negative, there is a high chance that it shall come to life.

resolutionWith that being said, I shall speak (in this case write, but speaking shall occur) my 2019 New Years Wishes NOT “resolutions”.  Not resolutions?  Why is that?  Well, thanks for asking. I believe the word “resolution(s)” is a silly word to use when attempting to grow positively into a new year.  Where did that word even come from?  Why do we even associate that word with something that is supposed to be positive?  Because I am who I am, I began pondering and questioning why we say “New Years Resolutions”, when in reality, the word “resolution” is a short and factual word.  It means to make a definite decision to complete something or do something with no wiggle worm.  To me, it is more of a negative word because when we say “resolution”, it means we are attempting to solve a “problem” or “dispute” something.

Hmmm….that’s NOT what my New Year’s Wishes are made of.  My wishes come from my heart and soul.  I make wishes not because there is a problem or dispute, but because I either want to grow spiritually, mentally or physically.

aAccording to the Cambridge Dictionary, it states a “New Years Resolution is promise that you make to yourself to start doing something good or stop doing something bad on the first day of the year”

There it is, it is to change something “bad”.  Yes, we are attempting to change “something”, but because I live a positive life, I don’t care much for the negative aspect or definition of using this word.

posI dug deeper because that’s what I do when I’m questioning something.  When you think about it, humanity began on a positive note.  Somewhere on our timeline, humanity moved from positive to “bad”, so this idea of a New Year’s “Resolution” came from some dark root.  But, my question is where?

According to History.com:

  • 4,000 years ago, Ancient Babylonians were the first to make “New Year’s Resolutions” in honor of the new year.   Their “resolutions” were actually “promises” (which is a positive idea) to their Gods to pay their debts and return any objects they had borrowed.
  • In ancient Rome, Julius Caesar messed with the months and established “January 1st” at the beginning of the “new year” around 46B.C.  This was a special day for the Romans as they saw it as looking back into the previous year and moving forward to the future.  They also made “promises” and offered sacrifices to their deity in order to have a good new year.  (another positive idea)
  • In 1790, early Christians made a tradition on January 1st for thinking about one’s past “mistakes” and how to be “better in the future”.  (Okay, here we go.  This is the beginning of the negative thoughts! They (Christians) started the idea of looking at one’s downfalls, their wrongs and mistakes)
  • “New Year’s resolutions today are a mostly secular practice. Instead of making promises to the gods, most people make resolutions only to themselves, and focus purely on self-improvement (which may explain why such resolutions seem so hard to follow through on). According to recent research, while as many as 45 percent of Americans say they usually make New Year’s resolutions, only 8 percent are successful in achieving their goals.”

And there we have it! The term/word/thought, “resolution” was born around 1790.  I am rejecting this negative connotation because I can!  I fathom negative thoughts because I know that negativity is like a virus and if I can help it, I will stray from that virus.

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My New Years Wishes are simple.  I always try to stick to three, it is a number that is simply to reach.

  1.  To become more environmentally conscious in all areas of my life
  2. To become healthier.  To me that means eating food that will not only benefit me, but also my children, my husband and the environment.  It also means becoming more physically active, so I can keep my heart and blood flowing.
  3. To write more.  With my busy life, I lack on my writing hobby.  When I do write, I honestly feel more connected to who I really am.  It empowers me.  It is something that I cannot explain.

Cheers to a New and positive New Year!

-Cami*Star 2019

 

One Positive Day

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How about for one day, we just stop bashing one another! I’m so sick and tired of hearing and reading about hateful words. All these humans in the world complain about x,y, and z, but they don’t realize they’re part of the problem!

I’m so serious! I would love for everyone to be positive just for one day. For example, instead of caring what celebrities look like without make-up, instead give them props to be able to be themselves in a judgmental world. Or instead of saying how fat a guy/girl is, maybe finding something beautiful about them. The biggest one is, instead of complaining how jacked up your life is, how about looking at all your blessings. I mean, c’mon, you’re alive, right?

Our world, your world, your sense of well-being will NEVER change unless you change your thoughts!

I don’t get why this idea isn’t even taught in school’s! Instead, kids are taught to rat out their bullies. How about working with these bullies, giving them some spiritual guidance instead of suspending them.

Our whole system is backward thinking. We don’t try to help anyone be better humans, instead we bash, bash, bash. We imprison the souls who are suffering and they only come out worse! We don’t reward college grads with awesome jobs, instead we kill them (including myself) with student loans only to become enslaved to money.

All these single mom’s in our world don’t get high fives, instead they get criticized and made to feel guilty because they are doing it alone instead of doing it with a partner ( which is some kinda great thing in our society). Instead we reward married couples who stay together for the sake of their kin when in reality they may be miserable. Geesh!

Let’s break these backward thoughts and ideas! Let’s move to a new world! A world that is full of positive radiance. Where everyone is beautiful and nothing is ugly.

I know, I know, wishful thinking, but maybe, maybe one day before I leave mother earth we will move closer to love rather than hate.

Who knows.

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